Someone’s in my chair! Being silly, of course.  It’s funny that when people return to a place such as a class they’re taking or church, they tend to go to the same chair (or pew). Even if there’s a gathering at a home, and we take a break, we go back to the same place we sat before. Why do we do it? I have no idea.

I was in a particular seat yesterday afternoon and this morning, but when I came in for the session after lunch, someone was sitting there. What’s up with that?

Okay, it really doesn’t matter, but I do feel a bit …displaced. I wonder if this could be linked to the human need for consistency. We go into a large room full of strangers, find a seat, and it’s like we stake out a territory, and it must be maintained. I’ve seen it in classes I’ve taught with college students and at other workshops. If we’re like that as adults, what must it be like for children—entering a new school, encountering a new child in the class, in the neighborhood, or in the family. I don’t know the research on this topic. This is just an observation. But I do know that adjusting to change can be no big deal to some, irksome to a lot, or disruptive to the lives of a few. There is actually a DSM-5 diagnosis for Adjustment Disorder.

It is important when changes are coming up to prep ourselves and our children. Talk about how it might make us feel and how we can seek to understand another perspective.

Entering a new school can cause a child to feel a lot of anxiety. If possible, arrange for your child to meet one or two of the children in the class before they have to go to the school. The teacher can help with this process.


Tressa Reisetter has a new book out for parents:

Getting to Know Your Child’s Brain.

Here’s the link: